Priceless Relationship Advice for Women from a Male Point of View

By : Kieron Walker
One of the most routine things some women do when it comes to relationships is take advice from other women. Not that all women offer bad advice, but if you are struggling to understand men then why not ask a man? If your ultimate goal is to find and keep a good man in your life, you may want to start by asking another good man for some relationship advice.

The answers you receive may or may not shock you, but they are sure to be different than the tips you may receive in those monthly relationship magazines. For those of you without any impartial guy friends to ask, here are some relationship tips from a male point of view that may help.

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The Perfect Man Does Not Exist

Let's just get this one out of the way first. There is no perfect guy. There never has been a perfect guy. There never will be a perfect guy. Stop searching for him, and learn to appreciate more of the imperfect guys that are readily available to you.

Ultimately, the best person for you will have flaws. He may even end up having a ton of flaws. However, the thing to focus on is finding a person that has flaws that are not deal-breakers in the grand scheme of things. Sure they may annoy you from time to time, but over time you can learn to accept and live with them. Who knows, they could possibly even become endearing traits that you miss when the person is away for an extended period of time.

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A Man is Not a Makeover Project

Being in a relationship is not like becoming the host of Extreme Man Makeover. If you cannot learn to appreciate the person you are with for who they are when you meet them, then move on and find someone else that you can appreciate.

Trying to turn a man into a project will just annoy them over time because they will always feel unappreciated and eventually fall back into being the person they were when you met them. It also sends a message to the man that who they are as a person just is not enough for you, and that is a recipe for disaster.

Check Your Past Baggage at the Door

If you go into a new relationship carrying the baggage from the last relationship, expect problems. At some point you are going to have to learn to treat all of your new relationships as a clean slate, and stop blaming new guys for things that old guys did to you.

Does this mean that your new relationships will have different results? Not necessarily. Some of them may end in familiar ways, but at least you are giving them a chance to succeed at the start. If things flame out, just learn your lesson and move on to the next guy. Learn to accept the fact that not all relationships are meant to last a long time, but try not to go into them thinking that they are bound for failure.

After all, the bad results could truly be more a result of the types of men that you choose to date or the places at which you are meeting them.

Man-Hating is Not Attractive

Sure there are plenty of reasons to talk negatively about men, but there is no reason to do it directly to the man you are dating. Man-haters usually find themselves trapped in a cycle due to their inability to stop talking down about other men in their lives. Usually it stems from a bad relationship or series of relationships in their past. Eventually they hit the stage where they distrust men in general. For whatever reason, they still want to date yet cannot resist the urge to bash mankind during the date. Once the new guy gets tired of the negativity, he too stops calling and now she has one more reason to hate men.

If for some reason you have negative things built up inside about a current or former man in your life, find another female friend to whom you can vent. This will allow you to get it out of your system without painting you as a bitter old woman during your next date. It will probably also make you a more happy person overall which will lead to having a better time with the person you are interested in.

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Your Past Does Not Equal Your Present

There are few things that men hate more than being compared to other men. No man in his right mind enjoys hearing about how good your last boyfriend was at anything in life. Very few men enjoy hearing how bad your last boyfriend was at anything. In most cases, men just do not want to hear about your last boyfriend at all.

In addition to becoming annoying, it just ends up making you sound like you have not gotten over your past. In the long run, this will just cause your present to pull away from you. And while you are at it, find a way to either get rid of or hide all the old gifts, cards, and jewelry that may have been given to you. Do you really think your boyfriend wants to see you wearing something that was given to you by another man?

Real Love is Not on Reality TV

Reality television is killing reality. The things that happen on these tv shows are not real, so please do not expect your man to act like that! Just because The Bachelor is able to go on extravagant dates every night of the week does not mean that your man has a will or a way to make those things happen also. Sometimes instead of expecting a midnight horse and carriage ride, you may have to lower your expectations and appreciate what your man is willing to offer you at the time. After all, sharing ice cream on the porch at night really is not that bad of an idea is it?

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It is pretty obvious the damage that shows like Maury can do to your outlook on relationships. By the end of one or two episodes of that show, you will think that every guy that crosses your path has two or three unknown children.

Do yourself a favor and stick to shows that portray relationships in a positive light, or just stay away from television altogether.

Keep Your Single Friends at a Distance

Once you find yourself in a relationship, one of the best things you can do is limit your exposure to your single friends with negative attitudes towards love. Certain single friends are single for a reason, and the more time spent around them is either going to make you long to be single as well or cause you to mistrust your current partner. Chances are these single friends were either involved in shady relationships or they are shady themselves, and extended exposure to those kind of personalities is nothing good in the long run.

Spending time with other couples will allow you to bond with your partner and still interact with other people so you are not driving each other crazy. Over time, you may even be able to ask your single friends to join so they can see that not every relationship is a negative thing.

Understand that People Develop Over Time

Possibly the most important thing to know is that although it takes a while for some men to grow up, it does eventually happen for most of them. Just because your man does not want to have sex with you 5 times a day does not mean that he has lost all interest in you. It does not mean that he no longer loves you. It just means that he no longer wants to have sex that many times. It could also mean that he is physically unable to have sex that many times. Rather than getting mad about it, find a way to discuss it and come to a compromise.

Looking outside of your relationship for an answer, is not the answer. Sure the construction worker down the street or the guy at the nightclub may say things you have not heard in years, but are they still going to be saying those things years down the line? Probably not. Give your guy some credit being there by your side over the years. Be happy for the things he does do for you, and try not to take the little stuff for granted.

Try a New Venue or a New Guy

Clubs are usually not a good place to meet people for long-term relationships. Women know this. Men know this. Yet for some reason, people keep going to clubs expecting something different. If you are looking for a quality relationship, try going to different places. You may find that guys treat you differently when you do not have on make-up and heels. It is possible they see you as more of a person and less of an object. Anything is possible.

Another thing you can do is try hanging out with different types of people. If you find yourself getting in trouble with certain types of guys, stop hanging out with those types of guys. It is that simple. Maybe the person you always overlook is really the person that you are meant to be with. Give them a shot, and if it does not work then you just move on to someone new.

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If It's Over, It's Over

Turning a bad relationship into an emotional roller coaster is a bad idea for everyone involved. If you just cannot get anything productive going with the person you are with, then cut your losses and move on. After all, at a certain point you are just wasting your time that you could be with someone else. Even time by yourself is better than being trapped in a negative relationship.

Keep it honest, keep it respectful, and then keep it moving. Hopefully some part of this helps out on the road to a long, meaningful relationship.

Do You Know the Difference in Being Alive and Truly Living?

By : Kieron Walker
The way I see it everyone wakes up with a choice on how we want to live our lives. Some of us choose to make the most out of each day, while others choose to just go through the motions. For most of us, just being alive means waking up and going through the steps of our daily routine. We eat breakfast, go to work, pay bills, interact with friends and family, and then go to sleep with the plans of starting the cycle over the next day.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with deciding to just be alive.It definitely beats the alternative of not being alive at all. However, I always view just being alive with deciding to live life as it comes rather than taking control of the situation.

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Making the Most of Each Moment

Truly living is taking the time to look deeper into our relationships and our experiences. It's about finding out why we relate to certain people and why we enjoy certain things. Truly living is about taking risks and expanding our comfort zones. It's about not letting fear dictate our choices in life.

Truly living is being able to stare failure in the face without flinching. It's about having an opinion and being willing to share it without knowing how others will react. Truly living is being able to acknowledge that none of us is perfect, and being ready to learn from other people around us regardless of our differences.

Truly living is being able to wake up each day and do what we love to do, not just what we have to do. It's about letting our passions in life guide us instead of following our finances.

Truly living is realizing when you are just being alive and doing something about it before it is too late.

Ways to Live Life to the Fullest Extent

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Maybe living a passionate life has nothing to do with its length and everything to do with its width. Here's how Tiny Buddha's friends live life to the fullest.

101 Ways To Live Your Life To The Fullest

39 Ways to Live, and Not Merely Exist - by Dumb Little Man

What Choice Do You Make on a Daily Basis?

Do you choose to just be alive? Are you out truly living life to the fullest extent? Or does it seem to vary day to day?

How to Save Money and Prevent Excessive Spending

By : Kieron Walker
Being broke is one of the most frustrating and helpless feelings a person can have. The stress that comes about as a result of having no money in your bank account can be mind-boggling. Trying to figure out a way to overcome the situation can be even more challenging.

Whether your situation is due to unemployment, excessive bills, or trying to maintain a hard budget, there are ways to pool up some extra cash to provide some temporary relief. If you really take a moment to analyze your daily life and spending habits, you would be surprised at all of the little ways that you can save yourself money. Some of them may require building new habits, but ultimately the feeling of having more money at you disposal should make it worth the effort.

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The suggestions below are just a few of the many ways that changing your spending habits can get you more money in the bank. Hopefully over time, they relieve some stress and get you back on track financially.

Sell Off Some of Your Junk

One of the easiest ways to put money back in your wallet is to look around your house and garage for items that you no longer use. In doing so, be sure to be very realistic about how often you have used something in the past, and how often you plan on using it in the future. You may find that the power drill you just had to have last year no longer holds much value to you. The good thing is that the items you no longer need may be coveted by other people. Set up a yard sale one weekend and you may be very surprised at just how much money you can make.

Another option for people who may have fewer items or who do not live in an area where a yard sale may be feasible is to try selling items online. Places like eBay and Craigslist give you a chance to post your items and either sell to the highest bidder or post for a flat fee. Either way you come out with money for an item that you no longer use.

Alternatives to Selling on eBay

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For the majority of online buyers and sellers, eBay has become synonymous with the online marketplace. However, there are alternatives out there.

Get a Roommate or Rent a Room

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If you have an apartment with an extra room or two, you may want to consider getting a roommate or two. While you may have to give up some of your independence, you may also save a ton of money by splitting the rent and utility bills. The money saved can get you back on track and possibly even set you in a position to have a place of your own one day.

If you own a home and find yourself in a financial bind, you may want to try renting out a room in your house. While this can be tricky depending on the layout of your house, it can be successful with the right tenant. You may find that your mortgage bill is not quite as painful after you make the change.

Negotiate With Your Neighbors

If you live in an apartment or multi-family dwelling, you may be able to save some money by sharing expenses with your neighbors. Depending on your living situation, there may be some utilities (such as trash, Internet, and washer/dryer) that you are able to share.

If you feel comfortable doing so, let your neighbor know that you are willing to split the bill if they are interested. You may find that they are willing to share one of their utilities in exchange for one of yours. It may not seem like a lot of savings in the beginning, but over the course of a year it could really add up.

Use Local Public Transportation

With gas prices being so outrageous, it is kind of surprising that people do not take more advantage of their public transportation systems. While it may not be efficient to use public transportation all the time, there are plenty of weekly errands that can be performed without the use of a car.

In addition to buses and subways, people can also save money by riding their bikes more often. Rather than wasting gas by driving a car down the street, people can easily choose to walk or ride their bicycles instead.

If you have a reliable public transportation system or bicycle and do frequent errands in a nearby radius, you owe it to yourself to try them instead of driving everywhere. In the long run, you will save your wallet and the environment in the process.

Furnish Your Home Using Craigslist

If you are in the process of moving or redecorating, one of the best ways to save money is by searching through Craigslist or going to local yard sales. You may find yourself surprised to see the quality of many of the items that people put up for sale.

In many cases, people may be moving to new locations and have to get rid of their old furniture due to space constraints. You may also find people who are upgrading their furniture and are just looking for ways to get rid of their old items. In either case, you may luck up and get good furniture for a seriously low price.

Try Freecycling

The Freecycle Network
A grassroots movement of people who are giving (and getting) stuff for free in their own towns.

Use Free or Low Priced Entertainment

One of the best sources of entertainment is also one of the most overlooked resources in our society, the public library. In addition to housing tons of new and old books, most libraries also have music and movies available for the general public to check out. Rather than spending money on CDs and DVDs, make a stop by your local library and check them out for free instead.

If you have an Internet connection, there are also sites available where you can watch movies and television shows for free. Hulu and Crackle broadcast selected television series and also have collections of movies and documentaries available for viewing.


If you have an older collection of books, music, or movies in your home, take advantage of exchanges such as PaperBack Swap, Swap A DVD, or Swap A CD. Once you sign up, people can request items that you no longer wish to keep. After you mail out the item, you receive a credit that you can use towards requesting an item from another person. If the book or movie is not available, you can get put on a waiting list and be notified once another owner puts it up for grabs.

Eat Out Less During the Week

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One of the most basic ways to save money during the course of the month is to cook more and eat out less. While nobody can debate how convenient it is to go out to lunch or dinner, the price tag will eventually catch up to you. Even getting a value meal for five dollars at lunch every day can get pricey, and does not compare to the money you could have saved by making your own lunch.

With respects to lunch, an easy alternative is to invest in a crock-pot and make meals that you can spread out over the week. After cooking a crock-pot full of food on a Sunday, split it up into separate containers. Place the containers in the freezer and take one to work each day. Rather than wasting money at a fast food restaurant, all you have to do is warm up your homemade food in the microwave.

In the end, you not only save money but you will probably end up with a more nutritious meal as well.

Go Out Less During the Weekends

A quick way to save money is to limit the number of times you go out to bars, clubs, and movie theaters. While they are a huge source of entertainment, they can also be a very expensive option over time.

By no means do you have to just sit at home and stare at the walls though. You just have to readjust how to have your normal social gatherings.

If watching movies is your idea of having fun, organize movie nights with your friends and family. Rather than going to the actual theater, pick a friend's home to host the festivities. Make some snacks and enjoy the movie surrounded by your closest friends and family members. You can even rotate who gets to host the movie night in order to keep it fresh.

Game night is another option if your friends need a break from watching movies. Get a group of people together and play some of your favorite board games or card games. Classics like Scrabble, Pictionary, Trivial Pursuit, UNO, and Poker never get old.

How Do You Save Money?

If you look around hard enough, there are tons of ways to save little bits of money. Over time these could really add up for you. What other ways are you saving money for yourself?
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Drinking Alcohol Safely and Responsibly in College -- The Ultimate Guide

By : Kieron Walker
While many college students will be quick to tell you that their main focus is on academics, there will also be plenty who feel that their social life is just as important. For some of those students, drinking alcohol is just a part of the college experience and a way to bond with the people around them. However when used irresponsibly, alcohol can lead to dire consequences.

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The tips below are beneficial for any college student that is considering drinking while on campus. Whether you are just having your first drink or you regularly go out every weekend after class, the suggestions below can give you something to consider and could ultimately end up saving your life.

Don't Drive Under the Influence

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The most obvious and widespread safety tip when it comes to drinking is do not drink and then drive. However, every year people hear this advice and proceed to drive drunk. Although some people are lucky and somehow make it to their destination, there are others who end up causing car wrecks which kill or critically injure themselves, their passengers, or innocent bystanders.

One of the most frustrating things about drunk driving is that it is so preventable. By using one of the steps below, you can avoid putting yourself in a potentially fatal position:

  • Have one of your friends be the designated driver for the night. That friend should avoid drinking any alcohol and make sure that your group gets around safely for the night. Many bars are set up so that designated drivers get non-alcoholic drinks for free as a thank you for taking care of their friends.
  • Catch a taxi or shuttle bus to the bar or club you plan on attending. Many colleges have special agreements in place with local cab companies to provide services for college students. Before going out for the night, check with your campus safety department to see if any programs are in place.
  • If the social scene is close to where you live, consider walking. Not only will you be avoiding driving drunk, you will also be making an environmentally-conscious decision. If you decide to walk, make sure that you do not do it alone as this could lead to other safety concerns.

On top of never driving a vehicle after drinking alcohol, make sure that you prevent your friends from doing the same. If you notice anyone in your group attempting to drive home after a night on the town, do the responsible thing and take their keys. It is better to have a disagreement for one night than to possibly lose a friendship forever.

Don't Binge Drink

College is a place where students are going to have a good time, but when doing so it is important to know your limits. Drinking mass quantities of alcohol in a small period of time is not only unsafe but also potentially fatal.


One of the major dangers of binge drinking is the increased potential for alcohol poisoning. Alcohol poisoning results when the amount of alcohol in the bloodstream is so high that it starts to cause difficulty breathing, seizures, and blacking out. In some cases, this condition can lead to coma and death.

Another downfall to binge drinking is impaired decision making. In some situations, people that are highly intoxicated may not make the same sound judgments that they would make otherwise. This can sometimes lead to physical altercations, unintended sexual behaviors, and other improper social interactions.

The best way to avoid being in this position is to know your limits when it comes to drinking. The following steps will also help to avoid a good time from turning into a nightmare:

  • If you are going to drink, try to spread it out over a longer time period. Give your liver a fighting chance to process the alcohol that you are putting in your bloodstream.
  • Understand that eating before drinking will not prevent you from getting drunk. Although it may slow down alcohol from getting in your bloodstream, you can still get drunk. Do not give yourself the green light to go crazy just because you had a meal first.
  • Know what your body feels like as you are getting drunk. Many people end up in tough situations because they do not listen to their own body's warning signs.

Going out to have a good time while in college is a healthy experience. However, going out to drink to become massively intoxicated is not a healthy choice. Listen to your body and avoid ending up in the hospital.

Don't Mix Alcohol with Other Drugs

One of the more dangerous sides of drinking comes when it is combined with the use of other drugs. When consumed by itself, alcohol acts like a depressant which slows breathing and heart rates. When used in combination with some drugs, the depressant effect can become twice as bad causing the user to stop breathing or their heart to stop beating. When alcohol is mixed with stimulants, it could result in the user having a heart attack or stroke.

Some of the more common drug interactions are listed below:

Drug
Possible Result When Mixed With Alcohol
Marijuana Increased intoxication
Cocaine Increased heart attack and stroke risk
Sedatives Dangerously low heart and breathing rates
Aspirin Increased risk of internal bleeding

Don't Use A Fake ID

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While using a fake ID is not necessarily a threat to your physical safety, it is still something that can get you in a world of trouble. Many underage college students use false identification in order to buy alcohol or gain access to popular bars and clubs. However, they often do so without thinking of the possible consequences.

Depending on the circumstances and the state you reside in, here are a few of the possible outcomes you may face if you get caught using a fake ID:

  • You could possibly face jail time for a number of charges. Depending on the authorities, you could be charged for identity theft, falsifying a government document, or underage drinking.
  • If you end up not going to jail, you could be facing a steep fine for some of the reasons mentioned above. Not to mention, you may end up with a criminal record which could impact your future job opportunities.
  • If you use another person's ID in order to get in a bar or get drinks, you could also end up getting them in trouble. The law could end up charging them for an offense whether the person knew about your plan or not.
  • If the club or bar let you in and you somehow get busted later, the establishment that let you in could face fines or possible closure.
  • Depending on what school you attend, you could also face probation or expulsion for being caught up in legal trouble while attending the school.

Ultimately, using a fake ID is not worth the potential trouble it could get you into. It is better to wait until you are the legal age to drink in your area in order to avoid the stress.

Don't Drink Around Strangers

Drinking and going out are social activities, so of course there are going to be plenty of moments when you are surrounded by people you do not know. The key is to make sure you do not put yourself in a dangerous position by becoming overly intoxicated without having any friends nearby. This behavior could lead you to being stranded in a strange area, or at its worst result in you being physically harmed by someone you do not know.

In order to stay safe while out on the town, try the following techniques:

  • If you are planning on drinking somewhere, make sure that you go out with at least one other friend. In most cases, you may want to have more than one friend with you. The reasoning is that your friends will be available to help you in case you get into some sort of trouble as a result of your drinking. They can also "babysit" you in case you drink to the point of being sick.
  • Do not accept drinks directly from the hands of people you do not know (excluding the bartender or server). Unfortunately, there are innocent people who have been given drinks laced with drugs. In some cases, the victims have been sexually assaulted by the person who gave them the drink.
  • Always make sure you have a ride home or a plan to get a ride home. Having to rely on complete strangers to get home after a night of drinking is a gamble that can have bad consequences.

Enjoying the social aspect of drinking is fine, just be sure that you use common sense in order to avoid someone taking advantage of you.

Use Common Sense

Ultimately when it comes to drinking on and off a college campus, practicing common sense is often the key to staying safe. Know what your limits are, and do your best to look after yourself and your friends when you are out having fun.

Although the college years can be wild and carefree, all it takes is one bad decision to bring them all to an unfortunate end.

The Secret to Avoid Getting Bored with Your Job

By : Kieron Walker
Job satisfaction is the term used to explain how meaningful a person's occupation is to them over the course of time.

No matter how long you have worked somewhere, there is always the chance that one day your job will not be as fulfilling as it used to be. You may not get the same thrill from your daily tasks that you once did. It may even feel like you are just going through the motions.

Your first thought may be to see how everyone else is doing, but your co-workers are still plugging away as usual. At that point, you start to wonder what is wrong with you and how did it get to this point. Where did everything go wrong?

If you find yourself in this position, the following tips could help to re-light your career flame.

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Be Passionate About Your Job

The Chinese philosopher Confucius once said, "Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life."

The first step in being satisfied with your occupation is being in a position that you enjoy doing. Sure there will be good days and bad days, but nothing is worse than waking up each day to go to a job you cannot stand. The daily frustration not only leads to stress and anger, but can also lead one to give up on the hope that happiness and work can co-exist.

For some people, finding passion is nothing more than taking a deep look at their current position and figuring out the job duties they enjoy the most. Once these are apparent, the person can focus on becoming an expert at these tasks and may eventually be called upon to mentor others on how to do them better. Paying more attention to the things you love about your job will eventually overshadow the things that you do not enjoy doing on a daily basis.

However, there are some people that go to work each day and have absolutely no joy in anything they do. If you are in a situation similar to this, it is up to you to find out not only what field of work you are interested in but also what types of tasks you enjoy doing. Taking a career or personality test at your local career center or community college may help you figure out what types of jobs align with your personality. Books, such as What Color is Your Parachute? by Richard Bolles, can also help you determine your talents with concerns to your passions in life.

Set Long-Term and Short-Term Goals

Once you have found the job you love doing, the best way to stay in love with it is to continue setting goals for yourself. These can be formal goals that you and your manager come up with during your annual review process, or informal ones that you decide upon for yourself. Whatever the situation may be, nothing beats the feeling of clearing a benchmark that you set for yourself.


When setting up your career goals and aspirations, make sure that you create a mix of long-term and short-term ones. People who only have long-term aspirations tend to lose motivation over the long haul because it can take so long to reach their achievements. If possible, break apart a long-term goal into the steps it takes to get there, and celebrate each time you achieve one of those steps.

Another thing to consider is making sure that your intents are realistic. Nothing is more discouraging than setting the bar unrealistically high and falling extremely short in accomplishing a task. This not only leads to a feeling of frustration and failure, but could also prevent you from wanting to challenge yourself again.

Continue Your Self-Development

Whether you have been in your career for two months or twenty years, you should never stop looking for ways to improve your skills. It is easy to become discouraged with a job once it becomes routine, and the best way to keep it from becoming monotonous is by continuously seeking to improve yourself.

Depending on your profession, this self-improvement can come in the form of taking additional certification courses or just asking your supervisor what else you can do to be more effective at your job. As you start to build upon your initial talents and knowledge, you will generally become more confident in what you do. You may even be moved into a position of higher authority or asked to become a mentor for less experienced co-workers.

Ultimately by working on bettering yourself as an employee, your increased knowledge and skill-set will better your company or organization. Your employer will also see that you are invested in your occupation, and may eventually begin to give you more satisfying responsibilities as a result of your ambition.

Ways to Improve Yourself

  • Take additional courses related to your field of work
  • Get a mentor in a position you would like to be in one day
  • Take on additional work responsibilities
  • Read professional journals and articles related to your job
  • Network with other professionals in your line of work

Focus on Building Relationships with Co-Workers

Many times when people are unhappy with a situation, they look within themselves for the reason why. When it comes to your job, the reason for not feeling fulfilled may be from not looking outside of yourself enough. Finding a way to build stronger, more meaningful relationships with your co-workers could ultimately change the way that you view your job.

There are very few situations in which people work alone. Even those that do tend to have a certain set of people they interact with or do business with on a daily basis. Taking the time to build a stronger bond with your fellow workers gives you a greater reason to do well at your position.

Once you realize that the organization is made up of people you are familiar with, you can set out to achieve company-wide goals for everyone's benefit. For many people, the only thing better than achieving individual glory is accomplishing a group goal. The sense of team pride and joy is contagious, and keeps everyone motivated to make it happen again.

Give and Receive Feedback

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Lack of effective communication is one of the major reasons why people become and stay frustrated with their jobs. This problem can work in one of two ways. First, workers may not receive adequate feedback from their management which can lead to a stressful, unappreciated feeling. For many, the only time they receive feedback from management is when something has gone wrong.

However, employees are also to blame when it comes to communicating with management. Many times, workers may have a concern but never bring it to the attention of their supervisor. This could lead to a situation where frustration builds over time until it eventually reaches a breaking point. In many cases, the negative situation could have been avoided if both employee and employer took the time to talk about how to make improvements.

Taking the time to talk to your manager or supervisor about how things are going with your job can help build a positive relationship and prevent job stress. It will also assure that your upper management has a better understanding of where you are coming from, and can lead to increased feelings of mutual respect.

Take Control of the Situation

Staying satisfied with your job is not a difficult thing, but it does take initiative. Whether it be re-discovering your passion in life, signing up for work-related courses, or taking the time to talk more with co-workers and management, the amount of success always falls back on how willing you are to improve your current situation. It may take a while to notice the changes, but you will feel better knowing you tried.

Are You Passionate About Your Current Job?

Are you going through a period of job boredom right now? What steps do you take to keep your career exciting? If you had the choice, what would you rather be doing? Share your experiences and/or advice in the comments below.
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Are You Prepared in Case of a Car Accident?

By : Kieron Walker
Each year thousands of new drivers are introduced to our roadways. Unfortunately, there are also a large number of drivers, new and old, that are having car accidents.

Despite testing and training on how to operate a vehicle, there are still some operators that do not have a clue what to do in case of an accident. While some people believe that the moments following a car wreck are the most important from an injury and insurance standpoint, it is also important to prepare yourself for the possibility of an accident before they even occur.

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The following items are all important parts of being a prepared driver. Each one of them can potentially come into play in the course of an accident. By having the items in your glove compartment or trunk, you can help to minimize the frustration and confusion that often accompany a car wreck.

Proof of Insurance

In most states, it is already a requirement for a driver to have a copy of his proof of insurance in the automobile. Even for those areas that do not require the document, it is a good idea to keep it in your glove compartment because it contains information you may need in case of an accident.

Most proof of insurance cards have your auto insurance policy number and the contact phone number to your insurance company's claims department on them. Both of these are important because you may need to share the information with the driver of the other vehicle if they plan on making a claim through your insurance company. The responding police officer may also need the information in order to complete his police report.

Contact Phone Numbers

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In the case of an accident, you want to make sure that you have your important phone numbers readily accessible to you and your passengers. In addition to 911 to contact emergency rescue personnel, you may also want to keep a contact card with phone numbers for the following people or organizations:

  1. Emergency Roadside Assistance/Tow Company
  2. Your Insurance Company
  3. Car Rental Companies
  4. Contact Info for your closest family or friends

Notepad and Pen

While it may seem like a simple set of tools, a notepad and pen can be extremely important in case an accident ever occurs. In many accidents, it is not unusual for drivers to forget exact details of what happened not long after the accident took place. In order to prevent this, use your pen and paper to jot down important notes.

Some of the information you may want to consider is as follows:

  • Name and contact info of the other driver involved
  • Driver's license number of the other driver
  • License plate number of the other vehicle
  • Insurance company and policy number of the other driver
  • Details about what happened in the accident (location, events leading up to the accident, damage both vehicles)
  • Contact info of any witnesses that saw the accident take place

The pen and paper can also come in handy if you are ever in an accident and have to leave a note behind for the owner of an unattended vehicle.

Disposable or Cell Phone Camera

After a car accident takes place, you may want to get photos of the scene of the accident and damages to the vehicles/property involved. You can do this by taking snapshots with your own cell phone, or by keeping a disposable camera in your glove compartment. Good photos can assist insurance claims representatives in getting a better idea of how the accident took place and how badly the vehicles were damaged afterwards.

Having good photos can also prevent disputes and fraud in the following situations:

  1. They can verify the positions of vehicles in case the cars are moved before the police arrive at the scene of the accident.
  2. They can verify license plate information in case the driver of the other car tries to drive away immediately following the accident.
  3. Photos of the damages can isolate the damages due to this accident in case the other driver tries to claim past damages to his car also.
  4. Photos of the damages can also protect against the auto body shop enhancing damages to the vehicle in order to make more money from your insurance company.

First Aid/Survival Kit

It is not out of the ordinary for victims of a car accident to come away with scrapes, bumps and bruises due to broken glass and deployed air bags.When you add in the fact that emergency response vehicles may not get to the scene right away, you want to be sure to have a first aid kit handy. This will enable you to manage any injuries until the ambulance arrives or you are able to get to a hospital later for a check-up.

In addition to the traditional first aid kit, you may also want to consider keeping a survival kit in the trunk of your vehicle. The contents of the kit should be items that will keep you comfortable in case you are involved in a wreck that causes you to have to survive on your own for a longer period of time. Some of the more important items of your survival kit are:


Flashlight and Road Flares

Having a car wreck at night can be scary and dangerous. If you ever have an accident after sundown, make sure you not only have a flashlight but also road flares available for use.

The flashlight is a useful tool in case you have to survey the damage to your vehicle without the benefit of having the sun overhead. Without being able to illuminate your vehicle with the flashlight, you may overlook damages and not recognize problems with your vehicle until it is too late.

The road flares are an important safety feature when it comes to nighttime accidents. The first benefit of having the flares is that they can help emergency crews and policemen find out exactly where you are located. Another positive use of flares is to put them around your disabled vehicle in order to prevent other cars from running into it and causing more damage or injury.

How to Use a Road Flare Safely

If you've never had to use a road flare in the past, make sure that you know what you are doing being attempting to light one. The following video will guide you on some safety tips:


What Else Do You Carry In Your Car?

The above items are just a few of the important things you should keep in your car in case of an accident. What other items do you keep in your trunk or glove compartment that may assist you? Feel free to share them and your experiences with them in the comments below.

If You Don't Prepare for College Now, You'll Hate Yourself Later

By : Kieron Walker
Applying for college is an exciting, but stressful time for many students. For many it is the culmination of four years of hard work in high school. For others, it is another step towards their goal of working in a certain profession. However for procrastinators, preparing for college can be the ultimate test of survival.

The list of things that must be done before a college even decides if you are a good fit is pretty long. They have to evaluate your application, review your test scores, read through your recommendations, and decide if you qualify for financial aid. Each of these these items has its own deadline that must be met, and failure to do so could result in you missing out on the college of your choice.

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Colleges Have Admissions Deadlines

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One big reason for not waiting until the last minute to plan for college is that most schools have an admissions deadline. This means that in order to be considered for admission into the college for the upcoming semester, your application and supporting materials must be received by a certain date. Delaying your planning increases the chance that you will miss the deadline and have to re-apply for the next semester or possibly the next school year.

There are also colleges that accept applications on a rolling basis. This means that there is no firm admission deadline. The schools evaluate applications as they come in, and continue to issue acceptances until the incoming class is full.

The danger of waiting too long to apply to these types of schools is that you do not know how many acceptances the college has already issued. By procrastinating, you could end up in a situation where a school has already accepted its maximum number of students for the semester. Therefore, even without a firm deadline you could still end up missing out on the college of your choice.

Letters of Recommendation Take Time

During the admissions process, colleges need as much information as possible in order to evaluate all of their potential students. One way they accomplish this is by requesting letters of recommendation written by teachers, family members, or community leaders. The recommendations often give admission counselors a better idea of who each applicant is, and what their character is like.

Recommendations can also be a sore spot for students who wait too late to apply to school. The difficulty is that you will definitely not be the only student needing a recommendation to submit with your application. Not only does it take time to select who you want to write your letter, but that person may also have to write letters for other students.

Starting your planning process early will allow you to get the proper recommendation forms to the person you ask, and give them the time they need in order to write a proper letter for you.

Standardized Tests Have Limited Seating

Another means of comparing applicants is to compare standardized test scores from exams like the SAT and ACT. These tests are set up to determine a person's aptitude for learning at the college level. Normally they are scheduled a few times a year at specific testing locations across the country.

With concerns to standardized testing, procrastination can be dangerous for two major reasons. The first is that the tests are not easy to prepare for. Although they are not designed so that you can cram all of the information into your head, there are still review materials available that can help with vocabulary and math strategies. Putting off preparation for the test increases the chance that your test performance may struggle, and your scores may suffer as well.


The second issue is that there are a limited number of seats available to take the test at a given location. Waiting until the last minute to sign up for the test puts you at risk of either having to travel a long distance to the next available testing site or not being able to take the test at all. Depending on whether or not there is an alternate testing date available, you could end up in a situation where the next test date falls after your admissions deadline.

Financial Aid Gets Used Quickly

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Another reason that students should act quickly when preparing for college is that financial aid opportunities are limited. Although there are a vast number of scholarships and loans available to students, you must consider how many people are applying for them every year. Some scholarship competitions are open not only to incoming freshmen but also to upperclassmen, and certain loan programs only allow schools to give out a set amount of loan funding every year.

Just like the application deadline mentioned above, schools often have a cut off date with regards to financial aid applications as well. The financial aid application is usually necessary to find out if a student qualifies for any aid-based loans, grants, or scholarships. Lack of preparation could result in you missing this deadline and having to come up with alternative ways to fund your college education.

These deadlines also come into play with outside scholarship programs. They usually set due dates for all materials to be submitted for consideration. Waiting too late could impact your ability to get the scholarship application completed in time. As a result, you could end up giving away a chance at free money towards your college tuition.

Choosing a College Is a Big Decision

Selecting the right college is not as easy as it may sound. You have to consider the location, price, academic programs, and overall level of comfort. Basically, it is not a choice that should be made in a rush. Procrastinating during the early part of the college planning process will only take away important time that you need to make this decision.

In many cases, students need time to research what types of majors and academic programs are available at certain schools. They may also want to take a chance to schedule a campus visit in order to get a better feel for a potential college. By waiting too late to address those issues, you risk the chance of ending up at a college you do not enjoy and does not have the programs you are interested in studying.

Rather than holding off and making a rush decision, you should allow yourself time to get as much information as possible before making one of the biggest decisions of your life. Take time to get organized, schedule tests and campus visits, ask for recommendations, and apply for financial aid in advance of all deadlines. Not only will you enjoy the admissions process more, but your stress level will be more manageable as well.

What Would You Change About the Admissions Process?

If you could make some sort of change to the traditional college admissions process, what would it be? Would you get rid of standardized tests or letters of recommendation? How about extending admissions deadlines or reducing application fees? Leave a comment and let us know what you would do differently.

Why is Tim Tebow the Most Hated Quarterback in the NFL?

By : Kieron Walker
After watching the Denver Broncos bow out of the 2011 NFL Playoffs against the New England Patriots, I could not help but wonder just why certain people hate Tim Tebow so much. Of course he has just as many if not more fans than haters, yet I still cannot lose track of the fact that people seem to hate him with the same passion that people hate on whole teams like the New York Yankees, Los Angeles Lakers, or Duke Blue Devils.

I guess to fully understand the hate directed towards him, you have to have a grip on just why people love him in the first place. Tebow was a highly-decorated high school football player who went on to further glory at the University of Florida. While he was a member of the Florida Gators football team, he managed to win two National Championships as well as the Heisman Trophy as the nation's top collegiate football player.

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After college, Tebow was drafted in the first round of the 2010 NFL Draft by the Denver Broncos. He played limited minutes in his rookie season as a Bronco, but came in almost midway through his second season to lead the Broncos to the playoffs. Attention to Tim Tebow is not only limited to the football field however. He has also been a very vocal supporter of his Christian faith, and has taken time to do mission work in the Philippines as well.

Most people would read that description and wonder how people can dislike someone with those accolades and achievements, but when it comes to Tim Tebow there is definitely a flip-side. There are fans of the game who feel that the amount of attention that he receives is not in line with his actual talent as a quarterback. There are also believers that his fan-base may be more influenced by his faith than his production on the field. Individuals have also brought into question how Tebow seems to get all of the glory after victories despite the play of his teammates. With these points in mind, take a deeper look into the reasons why some people hate Tim Tebow.

His Fans Overlook His Passing Ability

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One of the reasons that people seem to dislike Tim Tebow is that as a quarterback, he does not have the typical skill set that NFL fans are used to seeing. Tebow's talents lie in his bruising running game in a spread option type of offense. This was evident when he won the Heisman Trophy and helped the University of Florida win two national titles.

Despite his ability to make quick decisions on hand-offs and runs up the middle of the field, Tebow never came across as much of a drop back quarterback. His detractors often point to his long throwing motion as one of his negatives because it gives opposing defenses time to either sack him or catch up to open receivers.

Opposing fans and even some NFL players have credited Tebow for being a great competitor, but stop well short of calling him a great quarterback. Chicago Bears linebacker Brian Urlacher even went so far as to say that Tebow was "a good running back".

Arizona Cardinals linebacker Joey Porter took it a step further with his assessment of Tebow.

"Everybody had Tebow fever last year, you know what I mean? They went crazy for what he did. I mean, but it's not like he really won games the traditional way. He won eight games, and the way he did it was a lot of good defense, a lot of good plays, onside kick, field goal kicker had the best year he ever had."

Had Tim Tebow stepped in and delivered more as a passer, you cannot help but think that he may have silenced some of his critics. Many people will point to Carolina Panthers quarterback Cam Newton and say that he is a version of what Tebow could/should be. Newton entered the NFL as a run-first quarterback, but quickly showed off his passing abilities and maintained them throughout his rookie season. Many doubters are wondering if Tebow will ever have that same level of comfort in the passing game. If he doesn't, it's likely that some people will ever view him as a true quarterback.

The Media is Obsessed with Tebow-Mania

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When sports media finds a good story, they love to put it on the front page. When they find a great story, they tend to ride it until something else comes along. When it comes to Tim Tebow, the media starts to revolve all other news stories around him. For many people this constant media obsession is the reason that they hate Tim Tebow.

From the moment that Tebow took over the starting job for the Denver Broncos in week 6 of the 2011 season, he was a mainstay on most sports news shows. Even while other quarterbacks such as Drew Brees, Aaron Rodgers, and Tom Brady out up historic passing numbers, it seemed as if Tebow was always the main story on the news. In spite of the Green Bay Packers making a run at an undefeated season late into the year, the media focused its eyes on Tebow's run just to get the Broncos into the playoffs.

Unfortunately media exposure can often work the opposite of the way it is intended. For as many new fans as Tebow may have received from being plastered on television sets and newspapers, he had to have received just as many haters who were simply tired of hearing about him all the time.

What About His Teammates?

Tim Tebow haters will make this argument dating all the way back to his college years. They will state that he has always been surrounded by talented players which make it easier for his team to win. By winning, the credit always gets deflected back onto Tebow whether or not it is rightfully deserved.

Tebow's college teams at the University of Florida were loaded with talent, including many players that are currently playing in the NFL. However when it comes time to assess the Gators win-loss record while Tebow was in college, nobody seems to recall the importance of the other players on the field. If you were to ask some people, you may think that Tebow played every position on the field for the whole game. There is no denying that as quarterback he held more influence over the game than most, but the amount of credit he received for his college victories is stunning.

During his playoff run with the Denver Broncos in 2011, Tebow received a similar amount of credit for the victories that his team achieved. Many NFL fans and some analysts argued that the true reason for Denver's success was the play of their defense during their wins. However many Tebow fans simply credited the quarterback and his winning mentality for the reason that the Broncos made it into the playoffs.

The Blurred Line Between Religion and Football

It is impossible to state why people do not like Tim Tebow without mentioning the role that his faith plays in it. To view the point as if people hate Tim Tebow just because he is a vocal Christian is too simple. I think that people there are a ton of people who could care less what religion Tim Tebow is as long as he plays hard and gets his team a win on Sunday. Many NFL fans just do not want to be subjected to religion while they are watching their sports. These same fans smirked when players knelt in the end zone after scoring touchdowns or mentioned their Lord and Savior Jesus Christ in post-game interviews.

However with Tebow, you not only get a player who wears his faith on his sleeve, but you also get a legion of fans who seem to love him more for his faith than for his actual ability. This same group of fans who start to question whether the Broncos winning streak was more of a divine intervention than the result of the effort of the players on the field. It was even mentioned after one game whether Tebow's 316 yards passing may have been connected to the Bible verse John 3:16. This may be easy for some to overlook, but for many others it is just another reason to cheer against Tim Tebow.

Love-Hate Relationship

It is safe to say that whether you love or hate Tim Tebow that there are strong reasons for doing so. For as many reasons as I laid forth there are tons of others why people do not like him, and even more reasons why people are his biggest fans. One thing that you cannot question is that he is a talented, driven athlete who loves playing the game of football, and that his teammates seem to enjoy playing with him. At the end of the day, that should be all that matters.

Does Tim Tebow Deserve the Credit He Gets?

Based on his performance on and off the field, do you feel that Tim Tebow deserves all of the fan and media attention that he gets? What are your thoughts on Tebow-Mania?

Discover a Starter Goldfish Tank for Beginners

By : Kieron Walker
Recently, I took my daughter to the Saratoga County Fair. She’s usually not too big on riding the rides, so I knew we were going to end up playing games for the majority of the time we were there.

We strolled around for a little while, and then one of the vendors called out to her asking if she wanted to win a goldfish. Not too many days before, my child had penned a letter to me expressing her desire for a pet, so I knew she wasn’t going to be able to resist this temptation.

We went over to the game , and all she had to do was toss a ping pong ball into an empty jar in order to win the fish. Needless to say, by the time we left the fair later that afternoon we were the proud owners of five new goldfish!

On the way home, all I could think about was how in the world I was going to keep them alive. My daughter only stays over at my house on the weekends, so I knew I’d end up being their primary caretaker.

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The first order of business was getting them a place to live. I learned from prior experience that trying to raise fish in a bowl with no filter can be a nightmare. The water gets cloudy extremely fast from leftover bits of food and algae, and it makes it a lot harder for the fish to survive.

Instead of relying on the bowl, we stopped by the store and bought ourselves a little starter aquarium set, the Tetra LED Aquarium Kit to be precise. A couple of things quickly stood out to me before I even opened the box:
  1. The aquarium was the perfect size to put in my daughter’s room on top of her dresser. Although I know that I’ll definitely need to upgrade to a larger tank once the fish start to grow.
  2. It also came with a Whisper 3i water filter and a small air pump, which meant that I wouldn’t have to shop around for too many extra accessories.

The Setup


The setup was really easy. The aquarium came with a quick set-up guide that walked me through the whole process. The most difficult part of the process for me was transferring the fish from the old fishbowl into the new aquarium. That was mostly because I neglected to buy a net and no fault of the aquarium itself. In less than an hour, the fish were swimming around in their new home and my daughter was all smiles.

Over the course of a few days, I’ve noticed that the water filter and air pump really are quiet. There is a slight vibrating noise, but that’s to be expected. As long as the air pump is set in a sturdy spot, the noise has been minimal.

The water filter is also very good. I can already see how much cleaner the water is from when I first put the fish into the aquarium. It really shines when I turn on the overhead LED light. Of course, I’ll still have to change the water but this is a huge upgrade from just using a fishbowl with no filter.

In any case, we’ll eventually have to purchase a larger tank but this was the perfect one to get us started. It will allow me to get used to caring for the fish, and give my daughter a chance to enjoy her first new pets.

Additional Accessories

There were a few items that I needed in addition to the aquarium in order to make the goldfish feel truly at home. Chances are, you'll need them as well if you want to ensure your fish's health and safety.

Tetra 25900 Whisper Bio-Bag Cartridge, Small, 2-Pack
Although the aquarium comes with one filter cartridge, it isn't going to last forever. Stock up on a few of these now so you don't have to run out at the last minute before cleaning the tank.

Jungle NL064-16W Start Right Complete Water Conditioner Liquid, 16-Ounce, 473-ml
Before you drop your fish in the water, you have to make sure it's been conditioned. It's guaranteed to remove a lot of the chemicals and metals that exist in water that fish aren't suited to tolerate.

Tetra 29003 Crescent Aquarium Kit, 5-Gallon
If the 1.5 gallon tank isn't big enough for you, feel free to upgrade to the 5 gallon aquarium. Keep in mind your fish will grow over time!

Goldfish Care 101

I’m not ashamed to admit that I needed a crash course on how to take care of goldfish. It seems easy enough, but there are quite a few things to keep in mind. The following video addresses some of the basics…


Share Your Goldfish Experience

Do you own any fish as pets, or have you owned any in the past? What types of fish were they?

If you’re experienced with caring for fish, please feel free to share any tips and suggestions for any new owners that visit.

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